Feeling guilty about something is always a gut wrenching feeling. But feeling guilt for your littles ones is just horrible. ‘Mum guilt‘ is something I hear lots of mums talk about, whether it’s going away somewhere without the kids, spending put on something for yourself (shock horror) or simply sticking them in front of the television because your knackered. Then there’s the biggest one of all, being a working mum.
I am definitely guilty of this (excuse the pun).
But seriously, you still have to have a life. I mean don’t get me wrong, Harry and Daisy are my life but there is more to me than just being a ‘Mum‘.
I still need to socialise, treat myself, spend time with Kyle KID FREE and I need to provide for them, I want to give them everything.
When I had Harry, I returned to work when he was 7 months old, I felt guilty, like I was abandoning him, but it’s the best thing I could have done, it meant him going to nursery two mornings a week and it has been SO good for him, it’s really helped his development – especially where he’s behind in some areas, and he just loves going there. Now I have Daisy too, I didn’t want to go back to work so soon, I know I won’t have any more kids so I wanted to make the most of the time off while she’s little, but honestly, I am not cut out to be a stay at home Mum, as much as I love the bones off them, it just isn’t for me. I need to be working. I have always worked full time from a young age and that’s just who I am, plus I want to be able to be able to afford to do the things I want to, and for us as a family. Each to their own, but that’s just me….
…. And this is what I feel super guilty about. I worry that they won’t feel the same about me if I’m not with them as much, that I’m doing the wrong thing.
But I know that actually, it’s the right thing. I need to put clothes on their back, food on the table and give them all the nice things they deserve. So if your feeling MUM GUILT, ask yourself – Do I really need to feel that way?
I mean, I will still always feel that way, it’s natural. But we need to give ourselves a break.
Talking of which – me and Kyle are going to London next week and leaving the kids with their grandparents…… and yes, I feel guilty (haha!)